As an adult the same patterns were playing out, with Nola feeling she was second best and not allowed to achieve more or faster than her sister, whether in a career, buying a home, finding a partner or having a baby. Whenever things seemed to be going right, particularly financially, Nola would make a choice which sent her spirally down again. Her, potentially unfounded, jealousy was driving a wedge into her relationship, pushing her partner away with distrust, accusations and spying.
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Understanding The 4 Fears Ruling Your Life – Part 4 Not Enough
Posted in Conception & Pregnancy, Mind/Body Connection, Personal Results, Self Leadership Tagged with: anxiety, boundary setting, conception, de-stress for success, decision making, destress, family activities, Family Christmas, Growing Content, harmonious homes, infertility, IVF, loving relationships, mind-body connection, Neuro Linguistic Programming, NLP, personal results, procrastination, self sabotage, self talk, stress, Sue Lester, unexplained infertility, values
Wanting a healthy baby?
My part of the presentation is talking about the mind-body connection and how underlying fears and stress impact on your ability to conceive.
Posted in Conception & Pregnancy, Mind/Body Connection Tagged with: conception, fertility, infertility, IVF, negative beliefs, Neuro Linguistic Programming, pregnancy, Sue Lester
Understanding The 4 Fears Ruling Your Life – Part 3 Loss of Control
Every woman is different, and Anna identified that what she really wanted was to reconnect with her husband, and inject some fun into her life, so that’s what we then focussed on.
Jane, on the other hand, really valued family connection, so in the same situation she chose to reorganise her working week to allow space and de-stress time, and to work on clearing her underlying fears of childbirth.
Posted in Conception, Conception & Pregnancy, De-Stress For Success, Mind/Body Connection, Personal Results Tagged with: anxiety, de-stress for success, decision making, destress, Growing Content, harmonious homes, infertility, IVF, loving relationships, mind-body connection, personal results, pregnancy, self belief, Sue Lester, unexplained infertility
Who Are You Projecting To The World?
Our image reflects to the world who we think we are, what we think we are worth, and/or who we’d like to be. Our image is not just our clothing and accessories. It’s our overall grooming, our posture, facial expressions,how we speak, our manners and how we move. Who are you projecting to the world?
Posted in Mind/Body Connection, Personal Results Tagged with: anxiety, appearance, body image, clothes, de-stress for success, Growing Content, image, mind-body connection, negative beliefs, Neuro Linguistic Programming, NLP, public speaking, self belief, self sabotage, self talk, stress, Sue Lester
Understanding The 4 Fears Ruling Your Life – Part 2 Safety & Security
Safety & Security.
Jill confessed she hadn’t told her husband that she’d been investing in herself by attending personal development workshops. She said he’d been so scathingly dismissive when she first came home motivated to make changes to improve herself and her life, she felt unable to share with him. In Jill’s eyes their relationship was devoid of connection, passion and love but she couldn’t leave him because she’d made a vow “Until Death Do Us Part”. “Besides”, she said, “I’ve got no where else to live, and I’m worried what other people will say.”
Understanding The 4 Fears Ruling Your Life – Part 1 Rejection & Abandonment
You don’t need to be racked by anxiety to have Fear ruling your life. You may not be aware of it, but there is an underlying fear every time you fail to do something you know would improve your life. Even those little inactions throughout each day count. That telephone call you don’t make. The movie you’d love to see but you don’t go to because your partner isn’t interested. Fear keeps us stuck. Fear keeps us from living our potential, and Fear limits the love we can receive.
Posted in Conception & Pregnancy, Mind/Body Connection Tagged with: anxiety, boundary setting, decision making, destress, family activities, family holiday, Growing Content, harmonious homes, holidays, hypnosis, infertility, insomnia, IVF, loving relationships, mind-body connection, Neuro Linguistic Programming, NLP, pain, pregnancy, Sue Lester, unexplained infertility, values
Turning Self Sabotage Into Self Motivation
If you were on foot on the banks of the Zambezi River, slowly backing away from a trumpeting elephant, and you heard a deep growl behind you, what would you do?
Your survival, whether in the wilds of Africa or in the ‘concrete jungle’, depends on your ability to lead yourself first. It is impossible to lead others, including children, before motivating yourself first.
If you aren’t getting the results you desire, it’s time to make changes, and the only person you can absolutely change is yourself.
Posted in Mind/Body Connection, Self Leadership Tagged with: anxiety, boundary setting, decision making, destress, Growing Content, loving relationships, mind-body connection, Neuro Linguistic Programming, NLP, personal results, procrastination, self belief, self leadership, self sabotage, self talk, stress, Sue Lester
Could You Be Unconsciously Self-Sabotaging Conception?
The power of the mind over the body is well documented. If you have reached the stage where the sight of a baby or a pregnant woman upsets you, you’ve trained your body to associate babies with pain, and of course, pain is something we instinctively avoid. Fortunately it’s also possible to re-train yourself, and anchor in a powerful positive response to babies and pregnancy.
Posted in Conception, Conception & Pregnancy, Mind/Body Connection Tagged with: boundary setting, conception, decision making, Growing Content, infertility, IVF, loving relationships, mind-body connection, Neuro Linguistic Programming, NLP, pregnancy, self belief, self healing, self sabotage, self talk, Sue Lester, unexplained infertility, values
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