What if your only purpose in life was to be the very best YOU you can be, while fulfilling your heart’s desires? Does that make it easier? No need to be reaching for the stars if you are happily content…
What if your only purpose in life was to be the very best YOU you can be, while fulfilling your heart’s desires? Does that make it easier? No need to be reaching for the stars if you are happily content…
Recently I was blessed to spend a few days with dear friends of Peter’s in Aachen, Germany. (Aachen has a gorgeous heritage listed old heart, and delicious gingerbread speciality called Printen.) As Petra and I strode back through the frosty…
If I hadn’t known, I would have guessed she was in her early 70’s. Perhaps a young looking 78, but certainly not 92. Come to think of it, I’ve met women in their 50’s who are considerably older! That may sound odd, but I believe there is a huge difference between growing older and growing old. Growing older is a blessing, for most of us, as the alternative isn’t very appealing. “Birthdays are good for you – they keep you alive.” Growing old, however, is optional.
Do you find yourself spending more time thinking about the task than actually doing it? Feeling guilty knowing you should be doing something else? Or do you start and find reasons to stop? There are 3 steps to moving from self sabotage into self motivation: Clarity, Confidence then Motivation itself.
Clarity is about firstly, awareness you are holding yourself back, secondly understanding why, and thirdly working out what you can do to change. Confidence comes from self belief, self worth, knowledge and experience. Motivation itself comes in two forms, one self-sustaining, the other only good for a kick-start
Over the years the ground had been stomped into submission, every attempt to grow crushed by man, machine and beast. Eventually it gave up, resigned to fate, and not even the refreshing rain and nurturing sunshine could coax a smile. It was so beaten that even when left alone for months, then years, it hadn’t the spirit to reclaim itself.
So there we were, canoeing the Zambezi River with Zambia on the left, Zimbabwe on the right, a vast blue sky overhead and monstrous sized crocodiles and pods of hippos lurking beneath us… Our guide called out something, but I didn’t listen as I was determined to get it right all by myself – I just had to work harder, didn’t I?
If you valued yourself more, felt happier about yourself and your life, you’d find it easier to make healthy food and drink choices, and build your body’s resistance to bugs and viruses. Less stress, less weight means more self esteem and more happiness.
Our relationships with our mothers (including birth mothers, grandmothers, aunts, older sisters and stepmothers) shape our identity and self-esteem in childhood, and often throughout our adult life.
Significantly, the relationships also influence how we parent our own children, and even if we want children of our own.